How do you know if something is normal or not? Seriously, my DD is so dramatic about absolutely everything that it's exhausting to be around her much of the time.
We went through ADHD evaluation, and while she was borderline, we elected to try medication this summer to see if it helped some of her behaviors. She's been on Concerta since June. It does help during the day, but the rebound effect at 6pm or so can be really ugly at times.
She cried just now because we were out of something she wanted for breakfast. The other evening, she had a 30 minute or more meltdown about a variety of things, little of which made sense. She has this huge persecution complex that is nothing more than normal, everyday living issues. Girls are mean to her (yet I see her playing with them at daycare and she often doesn't want to stop playing to go home), her room isn't decorated like she wants and we won't go out right now and start redecorating it. She wants a cell phone and we are the meanest parents ever for not getting her one.
I honestly don't like her much of the time, I'm ashamed to admit. As she's my oldest, I have no idea what's normal and what isn't. I've heard other people say their kids of a similar age, particularly girls, have a lot of the same issues. DD is an absolute peach when she's with someone else. I've talked to our neighbor who has a 10 year old, and she says the same thing about her DD. She is a terror at home, but when her DD has been over at our house, she's wonderful. Vice versa for my DD and being at her house.
I don't understand why others get the pleasant kid and we get the Mr. Hyde.
I guess what I'm asking is how do you know what is normal and what needs intervention? DD has another ADHD and medication evaluation in October, but that is done with our pediatrician and not through a child psychologist.
I don't want to send her to a psychologist and have her think that something is "wrong" with her when it may be my inability to cope, ykwim? She already has some of those feelings from being on medication. She often brings up that she "flunked" kindergarten when all we did was have her wait a year because she was not ready to sit in a classroom all day (and she has a birthday 11 days before our state cutoff date anyway).
She's always been a really intense, hyper and dramatic child. As she's gotten older, the drama has been getting more complex and more difficult for me to deal with. The 3 year old tantrums were pieces of cake compared to the seemingly emotional angst.