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    It was mid-June and we had been dating since April 15. During that time we had long weekends and even a full week in separate towns and had written postcards, letters, and many emails. Somewhere in those communications, one of us signed "love, M" and then the other one did and so it went. We were standing in my house hugging and I pulled back and said "I know we've been writing it to each other, but I just need to get this out. I love you. I'm in love with you." He didn't miss a beat, looked me in the eye and "I love you too."
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    Dh and I had to first "I love you"s. We dated for a couple months when we were 16. We'd been talking on the phone and hung up at the end of the conversation. He called back almost immediately and said, "Goodnight, sweet dreams, I love you". I said it back. And to this day, I often say that to him at the end of a day.

    The second time, and the one that really counts, was when we were dating as adults, in the relationship that led to our marriage. We were long distance; I was in CA and he was in Texas, and i had flown out to visit him a few times. We talked on the phone pretty much very night. (The phone bills! The was before unlimited long distance was A Thing.) One night, I decided I had reached the point where I was ready to say it. Toward the end of the call, I started getting nervous, and I almost said it a few times, then chickened out, but eventually, I came out with it--"I love you". He responded by saying, "Aw, I'm smiling". I wanted to crawl in a hole and die. I spent the rest of the next day thinking I'd killed the relationship by saying it too early. That night, he called, and at some point in the conversation, he said that he loved me.

    He explained much later that he didn't say it right away because he didn't want me to think he was only saying it because I did.

    The inscription I had put on the inside of his wedding ring is, "Aw, I'm smiling."

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    I said it first. About a month after I said it, we were out for the day. We had been exploring Land Between the Lakes in his jeep and hiking, etc. We get back to my dorm to drop me off. The jeep was on those jacked up tires. I go to get out of the jeep and instead of hitting the ground when I jumped down, I fell in a hole…and disappeared. As soon as I hit the ground, I died laughing…because it was really funny.

    He leaned over the side and said something like, "OMG, I love you" through his laughter.

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    DH said it first kind of absentmindedly, then quickly followed woth "oh no did I say that too early? Did I mess this up?" And turned bright red. I just laughed and said It back :)

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    I am terrible at remembering this stuff. I have no idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by purplekitty View Post
    I am terrible at remembering this stuff. I have no idea.
    Same

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    I have no idea when I said it but I do know dh said it 1st. I had been hospitalized while pregnant with gestational diabetes. I called him to let him know and he said he would be right there to see me. It took him a long time to get the hospital. Come to find out his car wouldn't start so he walked there to see me and it was during a snow storm. I told him he was crazy and he said all he could think of was that he loved me and he needed to get to me.

    It was then that I realized I loved him too but I didn't say it. I was 20, pregnant, in the hospital and scared shitless.

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    First time you told your SO you loved them

    He said it first, & I mentally freaked out a bit. We hadn't been dating long. It took time & a few more times of him saying it before I felt I could honestly tell him I loved him. It was the first time I'd said it to anyone in a romantic relationship.


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    He said it first, if he hadn't I still wouldn't have said it. It was like our third date, I think? We lived about 2 hours apart so there was lots of time in between. We went out with his roommate and he got tipsy. Then later he says "you know I'm in love with you" and promptly closed his eyes and fell asleep/passed out/whatever you want to call it. So there wasn't much point in me responding.

    The next day we went out and discussed our career goals, where we wanted to live and how many kids we wanted. Which in Lizzie-speak means "I love you".

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    R said it first and I almost fell off of the sofa, we weren't even dating! We had been friends for 5 years, he was a goofy 19 year old and I was a single mom with a toddler and it never occurred to me that he wanted anything more than friendship until he leaned over during a movie one night and kissed me. I stuttered and stammered and when I could speak I told him I didn't think it was a good idea because we were really good friends and I didn't want to fool around and jeopardize our friendship and he looked at me and said "I love you and I've loved you for a really long time". We spent the whole night talking about what we wanted in a relationship, out of life etc. and I told him I thought he was crazy because he would be taking on an instant family and I didn't want my daughter getting attached to him and getting hurt if it didn't work out. He told me that he already loved her (it was true, he was her favorite person and I often say she chose him and it took me a while to catch up) and we've been together ever since, we just celebrated 22 years and he's been K's dad since she was 15 months old.

    The hysterically funny part of the situation was the fact that I had a male friend staying with me (totally platonic, he is gay and has been a friend of my family since I was 12) and while R and I were alternating between life planning conversation and smooching my buddy walked through the door at about 2 AM with his key and said "Oh sorry, I didn't mean to interrupt" and quickly went into my bedroom and went to bed. R was like..."Uhhh...who is that man in your bed, should I leave?" thinking I had some secret lover that nobody knew about
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