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    Glad you all had a nice day!
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    How to handle this scenario

    Great update! So glad you all had a peaceful day.


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    You were strong in a way she couldn't be. By being the "bad guy" you made her happy (as well as everyone else involved). Bravo!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TapToTalk View Post
    You were strong in a way she couldn't be. By being the "bad guy" you made her happy (as well as everyone else involved). Bravo!
    Sometimes it is nice to have someone else make a decision for you which you secretly wish yyyou could make yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TapToTalk View Post
    You were strong in a way she couldn't be. By being the "bad guy" you made her happy (as well as everyone else involved). Bravo!
    Yes, this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TapToTalk View Post
    You were strong in a way she couldn't be. By being the "bad guy" you made her happy (as well as everyone else involved). Bravo!
    Quote Originally Posted by justthinking View Post
    Sometimes it is nice to have someone else make a decision for you which you secretly wish yyyou could make yourself.
    Agree to both! Well done :)

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    Quote Originally Posted by TapToTalk View Post
    You were strong in a way she couldn't be. By being the "bad guy" you made her happy (as well as everyone else involved). Bravo!
    Exactly this.

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    I'm glad everyone had a good day. She sounds like a lovely future daughter-in-law.
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    I'd have declined as welll. He sounds like more than just a clueless jackass and someone who actually enjoys seeing people uncomfortable, so no. I hate people like that in my space. I'd also be watching my future DIL for boundary issues because she hasn't had much for role models and her willingness to even ask you at the 11th hour is a red flag for more possible conflict, especially once kids are in the picture.
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    I'd also be watching my future DIL for boundary issues because she hasn't had much for role models and her willingness to even ask you at the 11th hour is a red flag for more possible conflict, especially once kids are in the picture.
    I am truly not too worried about this. They have been dating now for 3 years, and we have a really great relationship. She has come to me several times for advice and what not. Her role models have absolutely sucked. She did live with an aunt for a year or so, when her parents were in jail, and has talked fondly about how "normal" that was. I think she craves that. She had to be the mom to her brothers after her mom left, and she moved out of her dad's house very soon after she graduated, she just wanted to be away.
    At the same time, I realize I am the MIL in this situation, and am treading carefully. I was so blessed with my in-laws, and I want to be the same for her, giving advice when it is asked for, not butting in, lol.

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