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    Not imagined: what say you?

    Your high school senior's BFF attends a college in a city 1.5 hours away by train. Let's say this is a big city, like NYC, Boston, LA, Dallas, Chicago, etc. Your kid wants to take the train to meet the friend, who will greet and return the kid at the train station. Yes? No? Does it matter if this is a boy or a girl? I've already given my decision, but I admit I thought twice about what I said.

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    I'd worry less about the travel (which I actually wouldn't worry about at all) than what they were going to be doing once they got there.
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    I would be OK with it if I thought my kid was mature enough to handle it while there. There is no driving involved in this big city, correct?

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    High school senior? Yes. Sophomore? Maybe. My son is a sophomore and is not a city kid, but I'd consider letting him do something like that if I trusted the friend. Just for the day or one overnight, though.

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    High School Senior? Yes, I would be fine with it.

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    Depends on the amount of time and the kid. But in general, it's not something that sounds overly risky.

    Of course, I live in a place where 6yos take the train to school by themselves, so my sense of things my be skewed.

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    When I was 16 I used to take the bus in to Toronto to spend the weekend with my BFF and my cousin - both of whom were opposite gender from me. Most times I'd sleep at the BFF's house not the cousin's house. Our families had known each other for literally generations so they trusted us. There was no hanky panky - but there could have been if we wanted because the parents were never around . There was drinking though .

    So my answer would be yes.

    We live close to Toronto now - and I'm surprised my 15 year old has never been in with his buddies - both dh and I were riding the subway alone at that point - but I think maybe it's just hid friends aren't the type

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    High School Senior? Yes. They might be on their own in a big city next year, time to learn to navigate. We've put DD2 on the train to SF to meet up with DD1 a couple times.

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    A high school senior, yes. It is a nice step towards the independence of next year when that high school senior might be the college student on the other end.
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