I've probably started a thread about this at one time or another, but this is bugging me again.
Whenever my BIL comes down to visit us without his wife or whenever dh spends the night at BIL's house and just the two of them go out for a drink, SIL will call BIL constantly. She either keeps calling to find out when he's going to be home or calling with some bullshit drama to get his attention, like the dog shit on the carpet or something.
BIL came down yesterday afternoon and spent the night with us so he could visit FIL and so he and dh could do the flood run. SIL called at least twice last night that I heard about, and dh said she called at least three times today. Apparently, she was pissed off because their 20-year-old son was drunk at a friend's house last night (he was spending the night and not driving). SIL called BIL today yelling at him about their son again and that BIL should get his ass home to let the dog out while she's at work instead of him "gallivanting" around god knows where. BIL told her that she knows he's had these plans for today for months and he's not "gallivanting" as she called it. BIL simply called nephew and asked him if he could go home and let the dog out; nephew said of course, no problem. Problem solved.
One night a number of years ago, dh visited BIL and just the two of them went out for drinks. SIL wouldn't stop calling, wanting to know when he was coming home. After about the fourth call, BIL stopped answering. After about the tenth time, dh answered BIL's phone and said, "Amy, we will be home in an hour. I'm trying to spend some time with my brother. He's not getting into any trouble. Please stop calling!"
Knowing that SIL is like this, I intentionally DON'T call dh whenever he spends the night at their house (he usually stays at their house if he's got an early morning work meeting up in the Twin Cities). I'll ask dh to text me to let me know he arrived safely, but that's about it.
I'm like the opposite of a nagging/hovering wife. I cherish my quiet time home alone; stay out as long as you want! When dh goes out without me, I rarely call him. If I do, it's only to ask him to pick up something at the store on his way home. (The only time I text dh to get an ETA is when he has drill, because I never know if he's going to be home in time for dinner or if it's going to be a late night and should I go ahead and eat without him.) Dh doesn't pester me when I'm out with friends, either.
Dh asked BIL about this today. BIL said that all SIL knows is raising kids, cleaning the house and working. Their kids are all adults now (the middle one, mentioned above, is the only one who still lives at home but is rarely around), so she has no little kids to keep her busy anymore. She has no hobbies or interests, so she fixates on BIL (I don't know if I really buy that because she was pulling this shit even when their kids were younger and they had her attention).
Do you and your spouse call/text when the other is out with friends or doing whatever? Do you know people who do this? Am I the only one who finds this irritating behavior?