Here we are a little less than a month into school, and my new freshman has 1 F and 1D. A few B- and I think only 2 A's. It's solely because she doesn't turn in work and/or study.
We have worked with her for years. Literally years on organization. She has ADHD, but refuses to take medication for it. She is on Lexapro for anxiety. She's been to counseling and is non participatory. She's been to organizational classes at school through the counselor. She has a planner.
I am not really sure what to do at this point. We have grounded her and told her we will not be taking her out to drive (has a permit) until her grades improve. I've told her she will not be going to homecoming in October if they don't improve.
Do I check her email from school everyday to track assignments? Not all teachers put stuff there. I guess I need to email the teachers and have them send me assignments? I'm at a loss. They will not make IEP type arrangements for her because her final grades have never been that bad.
What happens is we come down on her like a ton of bricks, her grades come up, then she starts back with the same bad habits. Rinse, repeat.
We've lectured until we are blue in the face about how grades count now and how college requires good organization and study skills. Nada. She can be organized and can study. I've seen her do it. I really just think she chooses not to.
Honestly, at this point, I don't even want to pay for college for her. It sounds awful, but I'd rather not waste my money and pay for the kid who seems to give a crap. She doesn't seem overly depressed anymore. She does have anxiety which the medication is for, but she refuses to do counseling to help with coping skills. We've been through 3 counselors. She just doesn't feel she needs them.