Does she have an official diagnosis? If so, I would push for an IEP. With an official diagnosis, I am pretty sure the school is legally required to do it.
The counselor at Matthew's elementary school actually came to me to offer one. When I talked to her, we decided against it because he always had A's and B's. She said though that she is legally required to offer it if he has a diagnosis.
And I am right there with you on the college thing. Matthew is extremely smart and extremely lazy. The fact that he has always gotten mostly A's is due to the fact that he just seems to absorb things, not because he actually worked at it. :gg I have already discussed with DH that we will NOT pay for college if he does not make some changes in terms of effort over these 4 years of high school. Fortunately for him, he can go to school for free for two years (Tennessee thing). I will not waste my money on someone who isn't even going to try though. I have my fingers crossed he will mature into it.