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    Addiction and relationships

    Let's say your spouse develops a drinking problem. It's bad. Blackout bad. The partner isn't willing to stop drinking. Do you stay?

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    Where's the horse? Nikki's Avatar
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    Probably not.

    You can't fix someone else's life - you can't do it for them.

    All you can do is try to help. To get them to the point where they are willing to do it for themselves. But if they refuse - it's ultimately their choice.

    And at some point if he didn't takes steps towards recovery I expect I'd have to walk away.
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    My DH did develop a bad drinking problem. He stopped for awhile and then started again and it was even worse. I didn't give him an ultimatum, per se, but I did tell him we couldn't continue that way and I meant it. I feel very fortunate that he quit drinking altogether at that point and hasn't had so much as a single beer in I don't know how long. At least a couple of years.

    I was prepared to and would have left if he refused to stop.

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    No. Not willing to live like that.



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    Nope. No way. No how.

    But he'd be leaving. I like my house

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    I. . . don't know. You guys know my history. I think I would try with everything I am to convince them to get sober. To get well. I would try so hard, typing this makes me realize that.

    Violence from the drinking would make me walk away, though.
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    Nope. I'm about breaking the cycle of addiction and abuse. I will not subject myself or my children to an alcoholic. Total deal breaker.
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    It is highly doubtful I could stay if my husband became an alcoholic. Both of us come from alcoholic families and it has always been something I've said I'd never put up with. However, I'm not young anymore and the thought of trying to live on my own is scarey, so I'd try anything and everything to get him to quit.
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    Addiction and relationships

    No way would he be staying. There's enough of an alcoholic history in my extended family that I know I have no interest in living with it.


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