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    I probably would do the same as Sprockey, but I would eventually reach a breaking point.

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    Like any other illness I would do my best to give him my support and love as long as he was willing to seek treatment. I grew up with an alcoholic and have no desire to do so again but I do consider addiction to be a form of an illness and I wouldn't walk away from my partner because he was sick. He has stuck with me through my depression - even when I wasn't seeking treatment - I see this as no different.

    A refusal to seek treatment would lead to some issues as would violence.

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    There are a lot of things that I would probably put up with if it was just me. The fact that we have two children living here, watching everything, means my tolerance of certain things is much lower.

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    Yes, an active alcoholic who drunk to the point of black outs and inability to properly function, would need to be in treatment or they would not be welcome living WITH my children- but that is still a tough one if my kids were young because, if I were to separate I would then not have any control over the kids while they were with the alcoholic.

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    I's stick around for a while, trying to help him get healthy and sober. At some point, however, I would have to walk away. I can stay with a sick person who is trying to get well, but not one who isn't. Not when that disease may well destroy me, too.

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    : agree (with Kimm).
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    Moving right along....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarsparilla View Post
    I don't know your co-worker's husband, but generally speaking, recovering sober alcoholics don't live on the knife edge of relapse every day.
    Those were some very dark days for her. I think that she knows that *realistically* he's not on the edge of relapse, but she thinks about it every day and worries about it constantly. That is her issue, and not his, but definitely a consequence of staying.

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    I think the fact that my children are pretty well grown and on their way out of the house makes me lean towards sticking it out. If they were tiny, I MIGHT have made a different choice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maurinsky View Post
    I probably would do the same as Sprockey, but I would eventually reach a breaking point.
    I haven't posted what I would do. But stay tuned, I am still thinking about it and will post soon
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sprockey View Post
    I haven't posted what I would do. But stay tuned, I am still thinking about it and will post soon



    Maybe she was having a premonition or a prophecy.

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