Need some advice...
My DD14 is on the 8th grade volleyball team at school. She played last year and was a starter. Not the best player, not the worst for sure. Decent. She made the team this year and is not a starter. OK. That happens. She needs to up her game and try harder. I get that.
They are using a 6-2 rotation this year, and the girls are not getting it. It's very frustrating to watch. The coach always plays the same 6 starters, and only rotates to settle down one of the starters. I've heard that is not unusual. They have won 0 games this year so far, and only one set. They are by far the worst team that I've seen. We had a tournament this weekend, and it's very obvious. The team last year was much better, and most of the same girls are on the team.
My frustrations are these:
1. Is it normal not to play most girls on the team? There are 15 girls and some have never played. My DD has been in a total of maybe 5 minutes. She has completely lost all confidence in herself, and cries after each game. She hates it. She knows she can't be a quitter, but I don't know how to help her.
2. The 8th grade girls won 0 games last year. None. DD says only the starter scrimage in practice. The bench sitters don't. She doesn't know the rotation. But, how to learn the rotation if you don't practice? Is that typical to not scrimage all players?
3. The coach told my DD she is lazy and self centered. While that can be true at home for sure, I've watched her, she is not lazy in practice. She has lost confidence this year.
She wants to try out with her friend for a club team. All I know about club play is that it's very expensive---about $2500. I don't know if they play all the girls if they get on the team or not in club play.
I am frustrated because you can't get better unless you play, but the coach only plays less than 1/2 the team. DD did play on a recreational league with a core group of girls last winter and spring. They weren't too bad and had a lot of fun.